Years ago I was out with one of my sisters and my mom, and we had just left a store with where the attendant was both overly (and creepily) attentive and condescending. He was just as horrendous as he sounds.
I don’t remember exactly what went down in the store. I have no idea what he said to Mom or what she too him. But what I do remember is that she turned around and said to my sister and me:
You do not have to be nice to everyone
Make no mistake – my mom was a nice, wonderful and caring woman. But if you could not be bothered to be pleasant to her, she would not bother with you. At. All.
She was also not talking about lashing back rudeness with rudeness. That was not her style.
What she was telling my sister and me is that if someone treats you like crap, is rude, or creepy, or just plain nasty disengage. Life is too short to surround yourself with people that don’t make you feel good about yourself.
Take a moment and think about that.
We all have toxic people in our life, and it is OK to shut them out. No really, it’s OK. My mom said so.
Today nine years ago, I, along with my family, was with my mom when she died after an epic 15 year battle with breast cancer.
I still think about her every day.